{"id":9283,"date":"2020-11-15T08:39:00","date_gmt":"2020-11-15T13:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.garycombs.org\/blog\/?post_type=message&#038;p=9283"},"modified":"2020-11-23T08:43:22","modified_gmt":"2020-11-23T13:43:22","slug":"heart-for-each-other-2","status":"publish","type":"message","link":"https:\/\/www.garycombs.org\/blog\/message\/heart-for-each-other-2","title":{"rendered":"Heart for Each Other"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Below is an automated transcript of this message<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"3.04\">We are  <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> \u201crising up\u201d for each other; that&#8217;s what we&#8217;re talking about. We&#8217;re in week three of this series. This series is really based on two commands from Jesus. One is called the Great Commission and the other of the Great Commandment.   In the Great Commission, Jesus commands us, Matthew 28:19 (ESV) \u201cGo therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.\u201d   And then, in the Great Commandment, He commands, Mark 12:30-31 (ESV) \u2018And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.\u2019 The second is this: \u2018You shall love your neighbor as yourself.\u2019 There is no other commandment greater than these.\u201d <br \/><br \/>\nAs we look at these two great commandments from Jesus,  the Great Commission and  the Great  Commandment, we have written our church purpose statement based on these.  Any church that would follow Jesus will come up with a statement based on these two.   Ours reads <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"56.97\">like <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> this:<br \/><br \/>\n\tOur church exists to make disciples of Jesus Christ who have a growing . . .\nHeart for God expressed in passionate worship and generous giving.\nHeart for Each Other expressed in authentic fellowship and devoted discipleship.\nHeart for Our World expressed in intentional evangelism and sacrificial service.<br \/><br \/>\nOur church exists to make disciples of Jesus Christ who have a growing heart for God  (we talked about this last week)  expressed in passionate worship and generous giving. Second, a heart for each other expressed inauthentic fellowship and devoted discipleship. And then finally, a heart for our world expressed in intentional evangelism and sacrificial service.  We believe that we&#8217;re called to be disciples of Jesus and to make disciples of Jesus.  What do these disciples  look like? They look like people who have a heart for God, a heart for each other and a heart for our world. <br \/><br \/>\nToday,  we&#8217;re going to focus on that second character trait, \u201cHeart for each other.\u201d  We live in a time that it&#8217;s easier to stay in touch but more difficult to have a personal touch.   Wouldn\u2019t you agree with that, even before the covid pandemic?  This article, written by Rebecca Harris entitled,  \u201cThe Loneliness Epidemic,\u201d is becoming more and more true in Western culture, she <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"120.93\">writes <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> this; she says, \n\u201cModern life is making us lonelier, and recent research indicates that this may be the next biggest public health issue on par with obesity and substance abuse. A recent review of studies indicates that loneliness increases mortality risk by 26%. Social pain is as real a sensation for us as physical pain, and research has shown loneliness impacts on health in a greater way than smoking or obesity.\u201d  That article was written before covid.   Now, since covid,  I would say that loneliness has increased. Wouldn&#8217;t you agree with that? Social isolation has increased.\nNow, the COVID-19 pandemic has made our mental and social health even worse! \n\u201cThe COVID-19 pandemic has negatively affected many people\u2019s mental health\u2026 a broad body of research links social isolation and loneliness to both poor mental and physical health. Former U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy has brought attention to the widespread experience of loneliness as a public health concern in itself, pointing to its association with reduced lifespan and greater risk of both mental and physical illnesses. The data is showing that significantly higher shares of people who are sheltering in place report negative mental health effects than among those who are not. Additionally, many adults are reporting specific negative impacts on their mental health and wellbeing, such as difficulty sleeping or eating, increases in alcohol consumption or substance use, and worsening conditions, due to worry and stress over the coronavirus. Of particular concern is those reporting an increase in suicidal ideation during this time, as isolation is a risk factor for suicide.\u201d \u2013\u2013 KFF \u201cKaiser Family Foundation,\u201d \u201cThe Implications of COVID-19 for Mental Health and Substance Use,\u201d 8\/21\/20 \nHere&#8217;s what&#8217;s going on in our society. There&#8217;s a hidden story that&#8217;s not being reported; it\u2019s the story of what happens to people, who were made for one another and are denied being with one another. There&#8217;s a consequence to this and it&#8217;s happening now. <br \/><br \/>\nYou see, we were made by God for God. After He made us, He also made us for one another. If you read the book of Genesis, God is going through what He made.   He made the fish and  He says,  I did a good job on the fish. He made the animals and He says, I did a  good job.   Then,  He made a man and something was missing.   He say,  \u201cIt&#8217;s not good for man <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"262.74\">to <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> be alone.\u201d  It&#8217;s still not good for man to be alone. We were made for God. We were made for each other. <br \/><br \/>\nIn the apostle Paul&#8217;s letter to the Colossians, he reminded them that Jesus Christ had given them a command to have a heart for God  but also to have a heart for each other. To  love your neighbor as yourself.   To love yourself.   As believers, to love each other because we&#8217;re considered one body in Christ.  <br \/><br \/>\nAs we look at the scripture today, as Paul wrote to the Colossians,  to the people of Colossae,  we\u2019re going to  be looking for three marks of what it looks like to have a heart for each other. Let&#8217;s look at chapter three of the book of Colossians;  we will pick up at verse nine. Colossians 3:9-16 (ESV) 9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. 11 Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, \n<span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"323.18\">, <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all. 12 Put on then, as God&#8217;s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.\u201d  This is God&#8217;s word. <br \/><br \/>\nWe&#8217;re going to be looking for three marks for what it looks like to show a heart for each other. Here&#8217;s the first mark.<br \/><br \/>\nThree marks that show a heart for each other:\n1.  Authentic in fellowship.<br \/><br \/>\nSomeone who has a heart for God and a heart for each other will be authentic and the fellowship with other believers will be authentic. <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"398.94\">Now, <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> we&#8217;re told by those who polls such things that the youngest two generations care deeply about authenticity. The millennials, also called \u201cGeneration Y\u201d and then,  the ones younger than  are being called \u201cGeneration Z.\u201d   I don&#8217;t know what we&#8217;re going to call the next generation. We&#8217;ve run out of the alphabet. They might have to be called something like \u201cThe Hurricanes,\u201d  or we might have to go to the Greek alphabet or something. I don&#8217;t know what we&#8217;re gonna call the next generation, but Generation Y and Generation Z is what we have today.   <br \/><br \/>\nThe millennials love authenticity. Perhaps it&#8217;s because they&#8217;ve seen so much hypocrisy in their families and in other places in society. Everything has sort of a \u201cfake veneer\u201d to it; the millennials desire authenticity. Long before that generation was ever born, the bible called us to stop lying to one another. Do you see it in verse nine?   It&#8217;s the first command  that we see here, \u201cDo not lie to one another.\u201d   <br \/><br \/>\nNow, by the way,  that means to <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"460.98\">tell <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> the truth to one another, to be authentic, to be real with one another. I would make you aware that there are 59 \u201cone another\u201d  commands in the New Testament. You might be saying, How do you know that? Well, I counted them; that&#8217;s how I know there&#8217;s 59 of them. There&#8217;s 59 \u201cone another\u201d commands. If you do a careful count of our reading today, you&#8217;ll see five \u201cone another\u201d commands just in this passage.  May I say this to you; I want you to hear this. \u201cYou can&#8217;t do the \u2018one anothers\u2019 without one another.\u201d You can&#8217;t do them. You can&#8217;t do those 59 \u201cone another\u201d commands without one another. <br \/><br \/>\nThe first command here is to tell the truth. Stop lying to  one another. How do you do this? Well, he follows it up by saying, 9 \u201cDo not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices.\u201d  Paul is using an extended metaphor <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"521.24\">here <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> in analogy. He&#8217;s done this in other places in the scripture,  where he talks about \u201cputting off\u201d and \u201cputting on.\u201d   <br \/><br \/>\nIn Ephesians, he says, \u201cPut on the whole armor of God.\u201d   Put on the spiritual armor. Here, in Colossians,  it&#8217;s more like articles of clothing. He&#8217;s basically saying to put off the old grave clothes. <br \/><br \/>\nRemember when Jesus raised Lazarus from the grave? Lazarus came out and he was wrapped in grave clothes.   Jesus said, \u201cTake off his grave clothes and let him go.\u201d   He needed help with that. Jesus had raised him from the dead, but he needed the body. He needed the people around him to help get his stinking clothes off from his dead life,   from the grave. <br \/><br \/>\nIt says here, in Colossians, to  put off the old self, put off the old sin nature.  When we come to Christ, we get a new nature but, for now,  we&#8217;re still <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"579.68\">in <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> this world. There&#8217;s a kind of warfare that goes on with the believer, Am I going to walk according to the old nature, the old practices or am I going to put that off? <br \/><br \/>\nI have a habit that sometimes,  when I&#8217;m getting ready for bed,  I&#8217;ll lay that day\u2019s clothes over  a chair that&#8217;s next to the bed. When I get up early the next morning, sometimes I will just throw those back  on. After a shower, I&#8217;ll put some fresh clothes on. Sometimes, I&#8217;ll put those old clothes on. If I have  a day off, sometimes I&#8217;ll wear those previously worn  clothes all  day because I&#8217;ll be doing some other work or whatever. They&#8217;re just \u201cbroken in\u201d already;  they&#8217;re just comfortable and they&#8217;re laying right there. They&#8217;re just convenient  and I&#8217;m used to them. They&#8217;re already \u201cbroken in <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"630.75\">.\u201d <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> <br \/><br \/>\nWe&#8217;re all tempted to put on our \u201cold clothes\u201d  when  we get up in the morning.  We get up in the morning and say,  You know what? I think I&#8217;ll just take it easy today. You just put on the old life. But we&#8217;re called to put on a new nature,  to put on a new life with new practices. <br \/><br \/>\nIt says  in verse nine to \u201cput off\u201d the old. In  verse 10 it says to \u201cput on\u201d  the new self. \u201cPut on\u201d the new clothes that were purchased by Christ Jesus. \u201cPut on\u201d the new clothes;  \u201cput on\u201d the new self. Here is one  way to   visualize this;  in the mornings before you even let your feet touch the floor and  you are getting out of the bed, put your hands down on the bed like two cups.   Put them down and say, \u201cLord, I just empty myself of anything that stands <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"684.77\">between <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> me and You. I know you are forgiving me, but I need to \u201cput off\u201d and  I need to \u201cpour out.\u201d   Lord, just forgive me of that and help me to put all of  that away.\u201d     Now, raise your hands up like this and say,  \u201cLord, fill me up. Help me to put on the new life that is in You.\u201d   Then,  let your feet hit the floor. You&#8217;ll find out that your day will go much differently. It&#8217;ll go much better. Put on the new nature, the new self. <br \/><br \/>\nWhat&#8217;s the character trait of  the new self?  It is being renewed, in knowledge,  after the image of its Creator; this is Genesis language.   Remember how He created man and woman in his own image?   The Bible says, \u201cAnd let us create man in our own image.\u201d  That&#8217;s how <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"738.29\">He <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> created us. And so, but because of sin, that image has fallen. That image is marred and twisted, but because of Jesus we can put on the new nature, which is restoring that which God always intended for us,  that we would be made in His image,  putting on the new self, the new identity. <br \/><br \/>\nIn  verse 11, he begins to describe the kinds of identities we used to go by formerly.   We go by  a new identity now when we put on the new self. But the old clothes used to have labels in the collar like this, like \u201cGreek\u201d or \u201cJew.\u201d In other words, what race you came from so that your identity is based on your race or  your skin color.   That is not the way we identify ourselves.   \u201c&#8230;circumcised and uncircumcised\u2026 in other words, what kind of religion did you come from? \u201c&#8230;barbarian, Scythian\u2026\u201d that&#8217;s culture.  \u201c&#8230;slave or free&#8230; <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"811.13\">\u201d <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> that&#8217;s economics or  your socioeconomic level.  he says. We don&#8217;t go by those labels anymore; that&#8217;s who we used to be. That&#8217;s not our identity anymore. The new authenticity we have is that we are new people in Jesus. We&#8217;ve put off the old we&#8217;ve put on this new self; this new self is Christ is our all in all.   This is our new identity. <br \/><br \/>\nWhat does it look like to be truthful like this? Ephesians 4:15 (ESV) \u201cRather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.\u201d We&#8217;re to be authentic with each other and speak the truth to  one another in love.  <br \/><br \/>\nTruthful hearts are marked by this sincere love for one another. 1 Peter 1:22 (ESV) \u201cHaving purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart.\u201d  When you have  sincerity and purity in your <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"877.52\">heart <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span>, when you have a truthful heart, your love looks sincere and authentic. It is not syrupy; it is not false. It is real.  This idea of \u201cdo not lie to one another\u201d includes the idea of  \u201cdo not be a hypocrite.\u201d  Don&#8217;t put on a false face; don\u2019t be inauthentic with one another. <br \/><br \/>\nWhat might this look like to live so truthfully with one another? Be willing to truthfully ask others to pray for sin areas in your life.  James 5:16 (ESV) \u201cTherefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.\u201d  Believers,  He says to us that we should be so real with each other that we share what we&#8217;re struggling with and we ask others to pray for us. We can say, You know, I&#8217;m struggling with this area. I&#8217;m struggling with a bad temper.   Maybe a mom goes to another Christian mom and they&#8217;ve built a relationship.   She says, I&#8217;m just losing my temper so much. <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"942.3\">I <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> just feel like all I do is say \u201cno\u201d all day long to my children.  The other mom is, maybe,  a little older in Christ and a little older in her parenting. She might say, Honey, I know I&#8217;ve been there, too. I know how you feel.  We have to discipline our children but we also have to be in balance with love. Let me just pray for you right now.   Do you see how that sharpens each other, but it also builds up one another?   <br \/><br \/>\nThis is authenticity; being real  with one another and even sharing our hurts and challenges. We have a saying in our church, \u201cBuilding a bridge of trust that will bear the weight of truth.\u201d  We use that statement as it regards sharing our witness with someone.   It&#8217;s important,  if you&#8217;re sharing Christ with someone,  that they feel like you like them, maybe even love them. It&#8217;s <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1002.77\">hard <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> to share Christ with somebody when they can tell you don&#8217;t like them.  Be friendly and smile when you talk to people  and tell them about Jesus.   \u201cBuild a bridge of trust,\u201d so that when you tell them about Christ, there&#8217;s a bridge that will carry the weight of it. <br \/><br \/>\nYou can apply that same statement to relationships with one another in the church, with other believers.   We want to grow in trust, and as we increase trust levels, it increases intimacy levels. Look at this chart;  pop up this chart.  It&#8217;s entitled,  \u201cthe seven levels of intimacy.\u201d   <br \/><br \/>\nThe first level is  just a surface level; it is \u201ccliche.\u201d How&#8217;s the weather? Do you think it will ever stop raining? I&#8217;m so glad the sun came out. You&#8217;re just talking about stuff that everybody knows.  Men like to share facts.  Men will stand together and talk about facts.   Did you hear what happened to the Panthers last week?  As soon as we got McCaffrey back, he hurts his <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1060.84\">shoulder <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span>. It looks like he&#8217;s gonna be out again. <br \/><br \/>\nThe next level is \u201copinions.\u201d  That&#8217;s where you start telling people your opinion about things. It&#8217;s a deeper level of intimacy.   Except on Facebook; everybody seems to start there on Facebook. Everybody \u201cvomits\u201d  their opinion out before they make sure that they have really loved one another. <br \/><br \/>\nThe next level is \u201chopes and dreams.\u201d   If you start telling people what your hopes and dreams are, you&#8217;re starting to trust each other. You&#8217;re kind of showing your heart. The levels  keep going:  \u201cDeeper feelings\u201dwhich reveal how you feel.  \u201cFears, failures and weaknesses\u201d is the level at which you  don&#8217;t share that with anybody unless you trust them. Finally, \u201cyour deepest needs.\u201d  <br \/><br \/>\nHere&#8217;s what I see; \u201cdo <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1114.4\">not <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> lie to one another\u201d  has,  inside of it,  this idea that we&#8217;re one body in Christ.  We need to get real with each other and stop being hypocrites.   Stop \u201cplaying church\u201d  and start telling one another the truth. If you&#8217;re struggling with something, get with somebody and share it with them.  Let them pray for you. Stop trying to walk through life by yourself. <br \/><br \/>\nLet me give you some tips about how to share life with one another. Here&#8217;s the first; it\u2019s  kind of a warning. Some people reveal too much too soon. Are you one of those people?  You walk in the room and  somebody says, Hi, my name&#8217;s Sally. What&#8217;s your name? You reply with, My name is Mary and then \u201cBoom,\u201d  you begin to \u201cword vomit.\u201d  Sally wants to run now because  you have revealed too much too soon.  You&#8217;ll scare people by this, so let them find out what your name is and a little bit about you at first.   Also, make sure you hear them, <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1189.61\">too <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span>.  The person who shares too much too soon usually is not even sure who they&#8217;re talking to yet, and so that&#8217;s a warning about authenticity. Levels of trust and levels of intimacy go together.   \u201cBuilding a bridge of trust that bears the weight of truth.\u201d  I&#8217;m releasing you to be real. Build some trust as you do it first. <br \/><br \/>\nThere&#8217;s the other extreme people who won&#8217;t share anything. They&#8217;re just clammed up and you never know what&#8217;s inside their head. That person is putting on a \u201cfalse shell\u201d by not being willing to share. They won&#8217;t share. Their lack of openness means that trust and intimacy will never increase in any fellowship they are involved in.   They will  be like a \u201cdamper\u201d  on the whole fellowship because they&#8217;re not sharing. Some are fearful; they&#8217;re fearful because they&#8217;ve been hurt before. They have revealed their heart and then somebody gossiped about it. We have a saying in our community <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1257.43\">groups.   <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> Community groups are the  small group  ministry of our church; they  meet during the week in people&#8217;s homes. We have a saying in our community groups. The saying goes something like this,  \u201cWhat&#8217;s said in the group stays in the group.\u201d   That builds trust because now I know I can be authentic in this room and these people will keep it to themselves. They&#8217;ll lift it up to Jesus, but they&#8217;re not gonna lift it out to anybody else.  <br \/><br \/>\nThis  doesn&#8217;t mean to parade around in your \u201cold clothes\u201d and celebrate it.   Sometimes I&#8217;ll see Christians who have been a Christian for a while. They think it&#8217;s cool  to use bad language. What I&#8217;ve noticed about being a new Christ follower, in the first place, the Lord cleans up their vocabulary, their mouth. But,  I&#8217;ve noticed there&#8217;s something going on in our culture today where young believers somehow think <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1321.07\">it&#8217;s <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> cool or maybe it&#8217;s more real.   Don&#8217;t misunderstand me. The authenticity I&#8217;m talking about is not \u201cputting on\u201d old clothes, not \u201cputting on\u201d old nature. \nIf you&#8217;re struggling with something in your old nature and you need to share it in order to receive prayer and to be built up, that&#8217;s authenticity. But celebrating your old clothes and  preferring them is not being authentic. That&#8217;s called \u201cbeing carnal;: that is  called \u201cwalking in the flesh,\u201d  so,  don&#8217;t misunderstand me.  <br \/><br \/>\nBeing real  doesn&#8217;t mean being sinful. What I mean by being authentic here in fellowship is sharing with one another, even those places you&#8217;re struggling with,  and praying for one another,  in a safe environment because you&#8217;re working together on it.   Is that making sense? Okay, so that&#8217;s the first mark of having a heart for each other, that there&#8217;s authenticity and fellowship. <br \/><br \/>\nThree marks that show a heart for each other:\n2. Loving in relationship.<br \/><br \/>\nLet&#8217;s look at verses 12 to 14. \u201cLoving in relationship.\u201d  Once you look at Verse 14, circle \u201cabove all these.\u201d  Do you  see it  <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1391.23\">in <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> verse 14?   Above all these;   what&#8217;s above all these? 14 \u201cAnd above all these put on love.\u201d  <br \/><br \/>\nWhat is 14 \u201cAnd above all these put on love\u201d about? Let&#8217;s look at this; we&#8217;re starting in verse 12. We&#8217;re going to  read verses 12 through 14. He&#8217;s talking about what you \u201cput on.\u201d  He&#8217;s finished with what you \u201cput off,\u201d  that old identity, that old nature. He&#8217;s going to get more detailed about what you \u201cput on.\u201d   He starts naming the articles of clothing that you&#8217;re to \u201cput on\u201d  before he does that. He does a little \u201ctime out\u201d  and says, Let me remind you who you are again. You&#8217;re God&#8217;s chosen ones. Remember that you&#8217;re God&#8217;s chosen ones, holy and beloved. You are loved by God, remember that that&#8217;s who you are. So when you get ready to leave the house, put on the right clothes because you are chosen,  you are holy and you are beloved by God.   So,  put on compassionate hearts, <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1458.04\">hearts <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> that are tender and loving towards other people; put that on.   What else? Put on kindness; be good to people. Be good to people. Do good for others.  Put on  humility; think of others before you think of yourself. Put on meekness. <br \/><br \/>\nNow,  meekness is not weakness but strength under control.   Meekness  has the idea of gentleness. Visualize a 6 ft.  man bending down on one knee to talk to his three-year old toddler. Strength under control. It is not weakness, but it&#8217;s reigning in your strength in order to be gentle and patient. <br \/><br \/>\nThe word,  patience,  is defined in verse 13.  It is giving you an example of what it looks like to  bear  with one another; having  patience  that puts up with others. You know, that&#8217;s good advice for marriage;  put up with one another if you want to  be married as long as the Skinners  that we interviewed earlier that have been married for  forty years. My wife and I&#8217;ve been married for 41 years.  After about five, six or seven years, we started thinking that we can\u2019t help some <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1532.88\"> things.   <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> We put up with each other. You just learn to put up with some things because you realize, You know what? We&#8217;re not perfect. Just learn to be patient with one another.   So what if he squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle and you&#8217;d rather roll it up and keep it neat at the top, right? <br \/><br \/>\nPeople, listen, some of our earliest marital arguments were about who made the bed. What did you do to the toothpaste? Where&#8217;s mine? You know, arguments about habits, of how you live in a house together. Are you easily offended? If you just touch someone, are  they easily offended?  I&#8217;m never gonna go back there again <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1588.95\">or <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> I\u2019m going to  run away from that. I don&#8217;t like him. I don&#8217;t like her. Listen, christians, we need to stop being so easily offended. We should really, in Christ, be unoffendable  because we know Jesus.  We have him and so we have it all. We are the ones that are  bringing healing, hope,  love and forgiveness to the world. Why are we so easily offended? It&#8217;s because we&#8217;re still wearing some portion of \u201cold clothing.\u201d   Our sensitivity to offense is evidence of an area that we&#8217;ve yet to surrender to Christ and let it go. We want to grow up and we want to grow in love. <br \/><br \/>\nVerse 13, \u201cif one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.\u201d . <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1655.34\">He <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> forgave me even though He had done nothing wrong to me. So it was a one sided offense and He forgave me. I&#8217;m supposed to forgive people whether they asked for forgiveness or not.   Why? Because I have unlimited forgiveness,  poured out into my soul,  through Jesus. I can write forgiveness checks because I have an unlimited deposit on account from Him. I&#8217;m not to walk in unforgiveness. I&#8217;m not to  walk in broken relationships. I&#8217;m to forgive others. That&#8217;s what \u201cnew clothes\u201d looks like.   I need to put on forgiveness. <br \/><br \/>\nVerse 14 says, \u201cAnd above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.\u201d  Above all these other articles of clothing, these holy, close, righteous clothes that we are to put on,  we are to put on love. I don&#8217;t know if it&#8217;s like an overgarment. Ladies, help me. Somebody out there, somebody&#8217;s out there drawing it right now. Is it an overgarment that holds the whole ensemble together? Is it a belt that holds your trousers up? Does  <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1726.22\">it<i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> give  you a place to tuck in your shirt?   I don&#8217;t know; it&#8217;s above it all. Not only that, but it binds it altogether. If it weren&#8217;t for this, none of it would  match this one piece of clothing. Ladies, it keeps it all together. Men, it holds your \u201cbritches\u201d  up. <br \/><br \/>\nLove holds it all together; it binds it altogether. How?   In perfect harmony.  Love is the mark. What kind of love is this? It&#8217;s the word of God, which is God&#8217;s kind of love, unconditional love.   It says in  1 John 4:7-8 (ESV) \u201c7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.\u201d  Do the people that work with you think of you as a person who loves others? Do the people in your neighborhood,  do the <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1780.44\">people <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> in your family? When they think of you,  do they  think of you as a loving person?   It&#8217;s the part, out  of all the \u201cclothing,\u201d  that would be the most obvious; that&#8217;s the  mark of having a heart for one another.  A heart for each other. <br \/><br \/>\nIt&#8217;s a command from Jesus.   He says in John 13:34-35 (ESV) 34 \u201cA new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. 35 By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.\u201d Can you imagine being one of the twelve disciples  when Jesus came out with this commandment? I have a commandment for you, Peter, James,  John,  Simon, Judas and Timothy&#8230;I&#8217;m talking to all of you. I&#8217;m  especially talking to  you, James and John.    James and John  were brothers; they  were  also called \u201cThe Sons of Thunder.\u201d   You have to love one another. Imagine one of the twelve disciples;  maybe it was Peter who said, Lord, I&#8217;m all good <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1843.92\">about <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> following  You, but I&#8217;m not so sure about hanging out with these other disciples. Then the other disciples look at him because there&#8217;s Peter always shooting his mouth off without thinking. James and John are having another argument again. He looks over to see Simon the Zealot, and there he is, posting about politics. He looks over at Judas; he&#8217;s counting his money. He still owes all the other disciples for the last time. He&#8217;s never taken his turn picking up the tab. It&#8217;s hard to be with these guys, Jesus.   I want to follow You, but do I have to hang out with all these other losers? And then Jesus says, Not only do you have to hang out with him, but I want you to love them as I have loved you. This is the mark having a heart for each other.  You can&#8217;t keep the \u2018one anothers\u2019 without one another. <br \/><br \/>\nHave you put on the holy clothes love that covers it all? Are you in a community group where you can practice <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1909.33\">these <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> things and practice this love. Are you willing to bear this mark of love towards your brothers and sisters,  not being so easily offended but staying in a relationship with others? <br \/><br \/>\nThree marks that show a heart for each other:\n3. Devoted to discipleship.<br \/><br \/>\nWe&#8217;re looking at verses 15 and 16. I want you to note that the word,  \u201cheart,\u201d  has been in this reading today three times.   It was in verse 12,  compassionate \u201chearts,\u201d  and then it&#8217;s in verse 15 \u201cAnd let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts,\u201d and in verse 16, \u201cwith thankfulness in your hearts to God.\u201d  <br \/><br \/>\nWhen we talk about the heart, we&#8217;re talking about devotion. We&#8217;re talking about that which the heart has passion for.   Notice here,  in verses 12 through 14,  this idea of passion and devotion.   I believe we are to be devoted to two things. As we look, how we are going to  be devoted to one another, we have to first be devoted to <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"1977.16\">Jesus <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span>. So first,  we have a heart for God; our heart goes towards God. When we&#8217;re right with God, he makes us so that we want to  be right with one another.  We&#8217;ve been given this ministry of reconciliation to be right with one another. What does this ministry of reconciliation  look like? <br \/><br \/>\nFirst of all, be right with Jesus. If you look at verse 15, he says, \u201cAnd let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.\u201d    That word,  \u201crule,\u201d  could be translated \u201cto umpire, to direct, to control,  so that the peace of Christ would be like that which controls your heart and says, Oh, that&#8217;s out of bounds. Don&#8217;t go for that or don&#8217;t swing at that,  like an umpire. It tells you a feeling towards someone else or someone  you&#8217;re about to speak to  and you&#8217;re about to say something that&#8217;s not kind.  The Holy Spirit is in you and the peace of Christ is umpiring your heart. How <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2042.18\">can  <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> I encourage this person?  This is a command. \u201cLet the peace of Christ rule, (umpire control) your heart,\u201d  because what is in your heart will come out of your mouth. <br \/><br \/>\nHave you ever ever heard the acronym that computer programmers used called GIG? \u201cGarbage in, garbage out.\u201d   If there&#8217;s garbage in your heart, garbage will come out of your mouth. So you ask the Holy Spirit;  you say,  Rule my heart; empire my heart.  Let the peace of Christ rule.  I want to  be a devoted disciple.   You were called to be  in one body. If you don&#8217;t have peace in your heart, if you have warfare in your heart, there will be  warfare in  all of your relationships.  You won&#8217;t bring peace to the body. Be thankful. <br \/><br \/>\nAnd then,  in verse 16, \u201cLet the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.\u201d   So let the peace of Christ rule and let the word of Christ dwell. In other words, let it abide. Let it <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2108.13\">live <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span>. Read the word. Listen to the word preached. Study the word. Get it in you. How much?  Richly; a lot.   Get it in you. So we have these two commands. Let the peace of Christ rule and let the word of Christ dwell.  <br \/><br \/>\nWe have three participles three \u201cing\u201d  words that come out of this.  If you have peace in your heart you have the word living in your heart;  it overflows.  Peace  comes out and the Word comes out.   And how does it come out?  Through  teaching.   Where&#8217;s my next \u201cing\u201d word?   It\u2019s admonishing. The next is singing.  If you remember your English grammar, how that works,  the verb drives the participles. They are dependent  upon the verb and the verb says,  If  you let the word of Christ dwell in you, then you will be a teacher of one another. You will be an admonisher of one <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2177.31\">another <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> and you will sing together with one another. You&#8217;ll sing songs together. <br \/><br \/>\nThis is how you build one another up. This is how you will express your discipleship to one another because we&#8217;re to teach.   Well, Gary, we knew you were supposed to teach. Well, did you know you are supposed to teach, as well? There&#8217;s always someone younger than you in the Lord that needs teaching. <br \/><br \/>\nDid you know you&#8217;re supposed to admonish one another? What does that mean?  It means to correct one another. The only time you&#8217;ll commit to that is if you&#8217;ve committed to the previous two marks;  you&#8217;re being real with one another and you really love one another.   If you are being real with one another and you really love one another and you see someone about  to drown or you see someone on a pathway that&#8217;s going to  lead to hurt and you say, I will stay out of this, you need to instead admonish them.     Sometimes it&#8217;s good to stay out <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2240.26\">of <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> something but if they&#8217;re your brother, your sister and they&#8217;re about to stumble, it says, to admonish them from the word of God that lives in you.   <br \/><br \/>\nYou are to sing together. It gives you all kinds of songs you can choose from. It mentions  \u201cpsalms;\u201d  there&#8217;s 150 of them in the middle of the Bible.  We have many songs today, put to modern music that we sing,  based on the psalms.   Hymns are usually more orderly and often filled with theology.   Spiritual songs are usually repetitive choruses that engage the heart.   Sing all kinds of songs. Sing it together because the verb is still about the word of God dwelling in you richly. <br \/><br \/>\nHow is the word of God expressed?  It is expressed through  your teaching one another, your  admonishing one another and your singing together  with one another. This is what it looks like to have a heart to  love each other. <br \/><br \/>\nThe first century church was marked by its devotion to being disciples and making disciples, and this is <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2308.85\">the <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> mark of our community groups.Acts 2:42 (ESV) \u201cAnd they devoted themselves to the apostles&#8217; teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers.\u201d   And so, they  were devoted to one another and doing these things together. <br \/><br \/>\nWe&#8217;re also committed to making disciples. Our verse,  that is really the DNA for our Life on Life discipleship, is found in 2 Timothy 2:2 (ESV) \u201cWhat you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also.\u201d  We are to receive teaching but we&#8217;re not supposed to let it just stop with us.   We are to  \u201clet it dwell richly\u201d and then we&#8217;re to teach others, and we&#8217;re to ask them to teach others. This is the way we will reach the world for Christ;  one heart at a time.   A changed heart who has a heart for God, a heart for each other, which results in a heart for our world. <br \/><br \/>\nThere are 59 \u201cone another\u201d   commands in the Bible  and <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2372.88\">you <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> won&#8217;t be able to keep the \u201cone another&#8217;s\u201d without one another. We need each other. We were made for God and we were made for each other. Stop being a hermit. Join the family. We were built for family. We need one another and we&#8217;re in a season right now where this is deeply important. Will you join us in \u201crising up,\u201d at a season when people feel like laying down? Would you join us in \u201crising up\u201d because we have Jesus? Would you join us in \u201crising up\u201d  and making room for more disciples, who can come, just as they are and be forever changed by the love of Jesus.  We are to make disciples who have a heart for God, a heart for each other and a heart for our world. Let&#8217;s pray.<br \/><br \/>\nLord, thank you for Your word. Thank You, that you first of all call us to yourself and then you <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2442.69\">call <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> us to one another. I pray for the person here that&#8217;s either in person or watching online and has never committed their life to Jesus. They&#8217;ve never surrendered their life to Jesus. We invite you right now to pray with us and ask Christ to be your Savior and your Lord. You can do that by talking to Him in prayer. Pray like this,  Dear Lord Jesus, I&#8217;m a sinner. I need You. I believe You died on the cross for my sins,  that You were raised from the grave and  that You live today.  Come and live in me. I invite you to be my Lord and  Savior. Forgive me of my sin  and make me the person You want me to be. I want to be a child of God. If you&#8217;re praying that prayer right now,  believing,  the Lord will save you and make you His own. Maybe you&#8217;ve already done that. Maybe you&#8217;re a believer. But you&#8217;ve been wearing some \u201cold clothes\u201d  lately. Would you repent of that today and say, Lord, forgive me.  <span class=\"messageTimecode\" title=\"Play the video starting here\" data-timecode=\"2500.31\">Help <i class=\"fa fa-volume-up\"><\/i><\/span> me to put off the old and put on the  new.  Lord, give me a heart for each other.   I want to show love above all things I want to  be real.  Lord, I want to grow up to be like Jesus. Help me.  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